How to Deal with Conflict?

Conflict resolution is a series of steps which can be used in a relationship to enable both partners to find a mutually acceptable solution to conflict and to restore good terms.


There are many responses to conflict including:

  • Talking about it

  • Physical violence

  • Ignoring the problem

  • Forcing a resolution

  • Arguing

  • Insults.

The problem with most of these responses is that the outcome generally isn’t one that both parties will be happy with.


Conflict resolution is a series of steps which can be used in a relationship to enable both partners to find a mutually acceptable solution to conflict and to restore good terms. It does not focus on blame but looks for agreement that something has gone wrong and develops a way forward. It usually involves a mediator who is able to see both sides, ask questions and intervene if necessary.


These are the steps that we can work through with you both:

  • Identify positions (what are each of you really saying)

  • Learn more about the true needs and desires of each partner

  • Ask clarifying questions for more information

  • Brainstorm possible solutions

  • Discuss how each solution would affect each of you and figure out possible compromises

  • Agree upon a solution

  • Implement solutions

  • Re-evaluate solutions, if necessary

What Now?

Please let me share with you my comprehensive experience in this field of communication enabling you to apply many simple yet powerful skills and tools that will make your communications feel full of respect and love. Reach out today.